I was sitting in the lounge on the sofa on a wet Wednesday afternoon, writing my new and first Welsh book for new Mums, when I received a message from TV presenter Mari Lovegreen, informing me tht she’s also been writing a Welsh book for Mums – I was really pleased to hear that she also reckognises the need for more Welsh materials for Mums. #MamPower
I grasped the opportunity to learn more about her book Brên Babi (Baby Brain) – and to get to know Mari Lovgreen the Mother!
First of all Mari, tell me the names and ages of your children..
Betsan – she’s almost three, and Iwan is 8 months.
How has life changed for you since becoming a Mum?!
Becoming a mother is the best and worst thing that’s ever happened to me! The best bits are so amazing, and impossible to convey through words. The worst bits make me want to bang my head against a wall! I’m in the process of training myself to have more patience; it’s not going well…
What are the best and most challenging bits so far?
The highlight is how much you adore and love them – I never thought I’d be one of those mums who uploads pictures of her kids on Instagram, but I just can’t help myself! The thing I find most challenging is the lack of a decent night sleep (pre-kids I could easily sleep ten hours a night. I LOVE sleeping).
Like me, you’re bringing up your children in rural Mid Wales – is it a good place to raise your children?
There’s always something to entertain Betsan – from running after sheep to throwing stones in the river – she loves it here. I love the peace and quiet, and the scenery. I can feel quite claustrophobic in a town these days. The hardest part is having to drive half an hour for a takeaway. (Totally agree Mari!)
What do you enjoy doing as a family?
To be completely honest, at the moment, I’m happiest when we’re all just chilling at home together. Days out with two under three’s can be quite stressful so I’m all for keeping it simple for now!
Is it difficult to juggle your life as a Mum with your career?
I think making time to concentrate on things that have nothing to do with the kids is really important. If I can squeeze in a day or two a week working on creative projects, I feel much happier in myself.
On to the book. Why and when did you decide to write a book for Mums?
Following the birth of Betsan in 2014 I went manic. Looking back, it was a very scary time and I needed medication to bring my feet back to the ground. This was the first and only time for me to experience such an episode. After talking to other new mums I realised that most women experience a change in their emotional and hormonal state after becoming mothers for the first time. In light of this, I felt women weren’t given enough opportunities to share their experiences honestly. We live in an age where we all share a filtered verion of our lives online, and I felt there was a real need to share real life too (#nofilter).
What can readers expect from this new book?
I always feel so much better after sharing my thoughts and feelings openly, so this is what you’ll find in the book: mine and my friend’s honest account of becoming a mum for the first time. Their voices are heard through different chapters from trying for a baby, to the pregnancy, the birth and beyond. I’m so incredibly proud of my mates for sharing their feelings so openly and honestly – the good, the bad and the ugly! Bethan Mai has also created incredible artwork that’s to be enjoyed throughout the book, giving it a lovely scrap book feel.
Did you enjoy writing it?
Writing this book has been like therapy for me and my friends. I was surprised how happy each mum was to share her deepest thoughts and feelings, even the more private ones. Perhaps this is an indication that there aren’t enough chances to express how we really feel after becoming mothers for the first time? I really hope this book makes new mums feel that whatever they are feeling or experiencing is perfectly ok, and that they’re never alone!
When will it be out on the shelves?
In time for your Christmas shopping! (I think the book will also be of interest to all the dads, grandparents, siblings and friends – we all love a good nose don’t we?!).
Finally, what would be your perfect day?
At this moment in time? To stay in bed all day watching absolute trash on the telly (whilst a top chef brings me meals and snacks as and when needed).
A huge thanks to Mari Lovgreen for such a lovely interview and I look forward to reading the book, which will be published by Gwasg Gomer very soon! On that note, I better get back to writing mine now…….!
By Heulwen Davies, Mam Cymru.