Dad’s the best – Mam’s the bad guy!

Are you always the ‘bad guy’? Are you doing everything you can possibly fit in to that short 24 hours but that still isn’t enough?! Are you screaming ‘YESSSSSS’ right now?! Don’t worry, you are not alone! I guess we all experience this scene below, way more often than we deserve to…

Dad’s the best!

Child – Dad’s the best because he lets me eat pizza and he gives me more chocolate than you…

Mam – Yes he does and it’s nice to have treats but I don’t give you pizza and chocolate all the time is because I’m trying to keep you healthy. From the day you were born I’ve tried my best when it comes to feeding you, I breastfed you through the night and it hurt…but I did it anyway. I made all your baby food from scratch and you loved it. The reason why I try to make sure you eat fruit and vegetables is because it’s good for your body, your brain..

Child – But I don’t like veg and why didn’t you just give me a bottle? You are just so stupid! Dad’s the the best because he lets me stay up late

Mam – Yes he does, and I do on the weekend. When you stay up late in the week it’s really hard to get you ready for school and that’s always my job..

Child – Yes and you always shout at me in the morning, you’re so annoying! Dad’s the best because he doesn’t shout and get as stressed as you…

Mam – I try my best not to shout and to stay calm, but I’m the one who has to do most of the thinking and organising in the house, and that’s on top of my full-time job, the school run and looking after the dog that you really wanted, but you’ve lost interest in. I’m not complaining, I wouldn’t change it for the world but Mam’s mind is constantly thinking what I have to do next. I’ve got a big list of things I need to do everyday darling, and it’s quite hard to juggle it all…

Child – Dad goes to work too and he takes me to my after-school clubs, you don’t, Dad’s the best

Mam – I have to work late everyday because I have to start later in order to take you to school. Dad’s always gone in the morning, which is why I have to get you up and ready, walk the dog, feed you both and get you to school before I start work. It’s team work. I’m sorry I can’t take you swimming and to karate, I would love to more than you’ll ever know, but if I don’t work till 6 everyday then we won’t have enough money to pay the bills and do all the other fun stuff you do..

Child – Dad always buys me stuff and gives me more treats..

Mam – Dad gets paid more than me, even though we both work the same hours. It isn’t fair, but it’s just how it is. I hope it changes by the time you go out to work. I have to work where I do because I need to take you school and be there for you if there’s an emergency in the daytime. Don’t you remember that I’m always the one who comes when you are sick, or when you fell off the swing and had to go to hospital? I don’t really think you need treats and stuff anyway, its much nicer spending time together and going to see places and exploring. Fun stuff doesn’t always have to cost money does it…

Child – Dad’s always more fun than you anyway, he doesn’t make me do homework, he’s not strict about not painting in my bedroom and he lets me take slime into the bath…

Mam – I used to be a lot more fun, I used to laugh a lot more but now there’s just not enough hours in the day to have all the fun I want. I do make you do your homework because that’s what the teacher has asked you to do, it’s important that we do that or we’ll get in trouble and you’ll get left behind, the more we practice things the better we get, that’s why you did so well in your spelling test last week isn’t it? I don’t let you paint in your bedroom because last time I had to re paint your wall and I spent hours scrubbing the carpet to get the stains out. Slime blocks the drains and we had to get a plumber out to sort it last time – it’s not that I don’t want you to do these things but I’m the one doing the housework, I find it hard to keep on top of it as it is and we can’t afford to buy new carpets. I’m sorry but we have to have a few rules…

Child – Rules are boring and you are just more boring than Dad, Dad’s the best.

Mam – Dad is amazing, I love him and I love you more than you will ever know and I’ll keep trying my best.

Child – Yeah, whatever…

Written for Mam Cymru following several conversations with many super mams! Keep doing what you are doing, you are all amazing and we’re in it together #MamPower

Mam Cymru

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